Bleeding Heart Before God

They tell me my wife, Joy, is happy now; they tell me she is at peace. What makes them so sure of this? I don't mean that I fear the worst of all. Nearly her last words were, "I'm at peace with God." She had not always been. And she never lied. And she was not easily deceived, least of all, in her own favor. But why are they so sure that all anguish ends with death? More than half the Christian world, and millions in the east, believe otherwise. How do they know she is "at rest"? Why should a separation (if nothing else) which so agonizes the lover who is left behind be painless to the lover who departs? "Because she is in God's hands." But if so, she was in God's hands all the time, and I have seen what they did to her here. Do they suddenly become gentle to us the moment we are out of the body? And if so, why? If God's goodness is inconsistent with hurting us, then either God is not good or there is no god; for the only life we know he hurts us beyond our worst fears and beyond all we can imagine. If it is consistent with hurting us, then he may hurt us after death as a name unendurably as before it. Sometimes it is hard not to say, "God forgive God." Sometimes it is hard to say so much. But if our faith is true, He did not. He crucified him.

—C.S. Lewis, A Grief Observed